In any case- it's gone now, the entire bottom half. So if this seems incomplete, it's because I hate blogger and it lost my deepest emotions somewhere into the interwebs, never to be found again. Ok, overly dramatic. But still, I'm livid. And now, the half-post:
I'm feeling less like attempting any sort of poetic description of where I am, where we are as a family right now. I'm feeling a lot more like I just need to document these days. One day I'll look back and be glad to have all of the information that I housed here and in our family blog. One day I'll be disappointed that I didn't really capture the last several months- months full of so many twists and so little predictability. I really should have been jotting down a thing or two.
What I do have is a notebook filled with the scribblings of our amazing nanny- every diaper, every meal, every nap, every fever. Thank goodness for that! I also have sheets of "therapy logs"- the cutest pieces of paper that my amazing husband designed, complete with a picture of Caleb on the top surrounded by clip art of workout equipment. Our therapists jot down important notes on these, as do the nanny and our respite provider.
It takes some serious organization, all of this. I believe most of you know my serious inadequacy in the organization realm. I so wish I could be one of those women with the meticulously thought out family calendar, the weekly meal plan jotted down by Sunday afternoon, the kid's outfits planned and placed before the very last minute frenzy of missing shoes or forgotten sippy cups holds us back from making it to the doctor's appointment in time, requiring a reschedule or an entire afternoon of sitting in a waiting room while the doctor has to "fit us in". I so wish I was a bit different in this arena.
Instead, I'm barely getting by with last minute texts to the therapists to let them know that Caleb has an appointment that morning so PT will have to be rescheduled. It also takes a whole hell of a lot of teamwork, not just between the therapists, myself, our doctors, all of our caregivers, including my family, our nanny, our respite provider, and our friends. It also requires incredible teamwork between my husband and I. Keeping our lives organized is a multi-person job. Keeping our lives happy, now that seriously takes effort. We could get so lost in the confusion, the questions, the doubt, the denial, the monotony, the struggles, and the schedules that we completely forget to remember the life that resides in all of that.
And this is why B and I have begun marriage counseling. This, and the incessant reminders that parents of children with Autism have about an 85% divorce rate, according to some. Oh, and parents of kids with special needs have about an 80% divorce rate according to some. And parents of multiples also have an increased divorce rate too, according to some.
According to us, it all takes work. A whole lot of work. B and I grieve very differently. I need to express it, I need to talk about it. I absolutely need to look at the worst case scenario, plan for it, expect it, absorb it, marinate in it, and then hope to God that it doesn't happen. B, well, B needs to take his mind off of it. He needs to see hope in every scenario. He needs to live in this moment. We both need to talk about it, but in very different ways. So having our needs met by each other in that facet can be challenging. We also have to remember who we are, who we were before the words Cerebral Palsy came into our lives. Before the formal diagnosis of Autism spun us around. Before kids in general turned us into new people, incredibly new people.
**Thank you Stacie and Meim for your comments before I realized that half of my post was missing- You two are such amazing women, I can't even begin to share how important your support has been for me. I wish you could see the last half...and those pictures. Ok here- I can at least make up for the lost pictures! Boo on Blogger!!!***
|Playroom of our old house...aww!|
|She loved sitting in that box!|
|Heading to Nana and Papa's for Christmas dinner party (the kids are actually still rear facing, we had to put him forward facing for a bit because of some issues with our seat...but I'm getting close to pulling the plug on the rear facing, we'll see)|
|Last days in the old playroom|
|Mommy and Daddy went to Vegas for a weekend away! Thanks Nana and Papa!|
|Drunk in Vegas with the kids back home? How about some chicken noodle soup and deviled eggs at 1am...sounds about right.|
|The view from our Vegas bathtub! :)|
|Our temporary house while we searched for a new home|
|He loved the big window to the outside!|
|Caleb being tackled by the big bear in the background cracks me up...|
|Experimenting with new hair styles for the boo bear. She rips all of the hair ties out anyway, I don't know why I bother.|
|Love this! This has been my background on my phone for months!|
|Pillow party! Best friend had a yard sale and was selling a bunch of her pillows...it was the BEST!|
|First hair cut!!!|
|What are you doing back there??|
|Looking on with fear. We are growing her hair out, hot mess of bangs and all.|
|Mommy turned 30 and needed some wine (April 2013)|
|Mother's Day- Grace and I took Nana to Afternoon Tea at a nice resort in town. It was so cute! Three generations of ladies :)|
|Sick little dude :(|
|Gotta love those one-on-one shopping trips from time to time|
|Baby pool by the big pool in our new yard!|
|The only picture I got on our recent staycation...Sesame Street was an attempt to get little lady to cuddle and let me stay in bed. Failed.|